Here's why.
I hear this saying, all the time. When people say something like: "Oh don't worry, just remember that everything happens for a reason", although that saying might be comforting for someone, they mean that your life is somehow planned and has a guaranteed happy ending. No matter what horrible things you go through, these events will guide you, they say, to the place you're meant to be. Although it would be nice if it were the case, I don't think it is. I don't believe in destiny. If you do, that's fine but I believe that things don't magically end up well just like that. I believe you make your own destiny. You want a good ending? Well you need to do whatever it takes to get one. It won't happen if you just wait for it to happen. When people use that saying, they probably think of a time they felt bad, upset and then how that particular experience enabled them to meet people that changed their life for the better or go to places they would not have gone to without having gone through that certain bad experience etc. Although yes, I'm glad I got to do good things I could not have done if I hadn't gone through some of my bad experiences, I wouldn't go on to say, though, that these bad times were justified by the good ones.
Some things happen in life.. some horrible things.. things that are so horrible that no matter how happy you are in the future, you'll never be able to say " Oh, I'm happy that actually happened to me because look at where I am and how happy I am now." Some horrible things in life just simply cannot be justified by that saying unless the "reason" is that life is unfair and cruel at times. Sure it's a rather pessimistic way to look at it, but my point is that if we are happy (long) after some tragic event, for example, it's not because it happened, it's because we somehow managed to find a way to cope and accept it a bit more everyday. It does not mean we're glad it happened and does not mean that a tragic thing won't be as tragic if something good will come of it.What would you say to someone who has just lost their child? Or to someone suffering from cancer? Or to someone who has just lost a loved one in a car accident? These are just a few examples of horrible things that happen everyday, unfortunately. Would you tell them "Oh, don't worry, everything happens for a reason"? No. I should hope not. Because none of it should have happened and nothing good would ever justify what happened to them.
Let's be more positive, now. Although we might not be able to control everything that happens to us, I think whatever we do to try to make good things happen in our lives does make a difference. Saying yes to opportunities that are given to us, working hard, and being willing to see what happens usually makes us discover great things, and that way we can meet great people too. There's nothing wrong with having a little hope that things will work out. Because most things do.
Even though life is full of tragic moments it is important to remember that is also full of good ones. Although it would be nice and reassuring to think that someone could protect us at all times from suffering and that we would only get things we deserve, I don't believe that the world works like that. Life is an uncontrollable, mysterious thing we cannot find a instruction guide to. All we can do is work on ourselves and make sure we do good things, and surround ourselves with people who inspire us and work together to make the world a little better everyday.
I'd love to hear your opinions about it so if you feel like writing a comment down below or telling me in person your thoughts on the subject, then please don't hesitate. I just felt like writing about this as I've been thinking about it a lot lately. Thanks for stopping by and for reading this xx
